cutting the energetic cords not only with people
alive but people that have died there are people
who may have wronged you that have died a long time
ago but they have just as big of an impact on your
life now So the first step of course what we've
discussed is you know forgiving yourself and
forgiving the other and forgiving the other person
um with us when it came to all the different people
that had wronged us in business that people that
were also friends and part of the community you
know wow I mean people that went out and put try to
actually try to destroy us publicly Mhm Try to
imagine how hard it was to get to a point to
forgive them Think about it You know you're out
trying to do this love and light work trying to
make the world a better place People get upset at
you because you don't give them what they want and
then they come out and tell everybody that you
practice practice black magic that you're a serial
sex offender or drug all kinds of just everything
they could think of horrible they put out about you
and that's that those are some seriously negative
energetic ties to say the least But before you can
cut those ties you have to forgive that person and
you have to forgive yourself for any part you
played into it So wow for us to get to a point to
we could forgive some of these people was it was an
amazing process and letting go of the anger the
disappointment the hurt that we had towards these
people was once we did it it was such an amazing
feeling It just took a while It took a while But um
you know the first step is getting to a point to
forgive the person and you have to decide are you
ready to release this burden You know so many
people their burdens are who they are You know if
they release their burden they feel like they might
go through an identity crisis which I can identify
with it happened with me but are if you're not
ready to release this burden if you're not ready to
to put to set down the pain then then then you're
not ready You're not ready If you are ready then
that's the second step If you've forgiven yourself
and you've forgiven the others that will help you
get to a point to where you are ready to release
the burden and if the other person refuses to you
know find a truce If the person keeps coming at you
you know with you know two middle fingers and
spitting in your face Um then you separate yourself
from that energy You forgive them and you go
through your process just because they still have
the negative hateful energy on their side doesn't
mean that it will stay connected with you Um you
know we we've done I've done especially a number of
different ceremonial things to cut ties with people
when I've done these other steps when I've forgiven
them forgiven myself Come to a point to where I'm
ready to release this burden and not hold it
anymore Like a little worry stone and angst over
I'm ready to just drop it and let it go Um I
perform different ceremonies You know one of the
things is I had items around that belonged or were
given to me by some of the people that had hurt
hurt us so badly You know one of the things that I
did was did a ceremony where I took a book or
whatever item a t shirt and did kind of a little
prayer where where I put all of my worry all of my
angst all of my pain and active resentment for the
person into that item and then I burned and mm hmm
sorry another method that I've used is you know I
will take a piece of yarn and that piece of yarn
will I will meditate on it representing the
relationship and the pain and everything that I
want to let go of and I'll tie one into a branch
out you know meditating out with the stream in the
background hearing the stream in the background and
then I'll sit and meditate and go over the angst
and the pain that I have towards this person and
what I want to let go and I put it mentally into
that string and I pull it tight and then I cut it
and then I walk away with my peace I leave the
other piece tied and that ceremonial practices very
powerful I'm using that method I've been able to
cut ties and release quite a lot of burden I just
thought about a good release method too since I
like to burn things you know that release method
but I was just thinking like what you could do is
you can even write something on say like a bay leaf
or a leaf that you find outside and if you're by a
stream a running stream write down what you're
releasing and then toss it into the stream and the
stream will carry it away I know I went on a
retreat one time in Sedona and uh we did I did like
a release thing down that um we were in a creek it
was oak creek maybe but I did like a releasing
ceremony in there and what I released at that time
this is two years ago was I'll share this I
released all expectations and I felt like that
encompassed just everything because I was trying to
instill just more live by faith and um my guidance
and so I released all expectation because our
expectations can hold us back and hold the universe
back from doing its magic Welcome back I was did
you hear what I said Yeah yeah we've talked about
balloons you know except those are bad for the
environment It just and you know marisa as well
taught me like on a bay leaf you can write
something down and then you can burn it as well But
it also released it into a stream and I just
carried away No we were talking about people
cutting ties you know interject ties with people
that have passed I had and about 54 years a little
over five very close family members die and
throughout all of this it was it was devastating
Sorry my voice is starting to go on me already deep
water Um but my dad passed away My dad and I had
had a big blowout you know years ago before we
could really heal he had developed temporal
dementia and you know I wouldn't remember who I was
or it was very a very aggressive it's horrible And
then he passed and I had all of these unresolved
issues you know he when I was hanging onto my angst
when I was not place where I could release my
burger and I was just you know all of my childhood
anger and you know abandonment issues with my
father and all of these things I was hanging on to
as a part of who I was and when I was finally at
the point to where I was able to release it it was
too late you know and man that was that was one of
the most horrible burdens I was carrying with me
and to be able to process that and cut those
energetic ties and release those burdens after he
passed away Was was very healing for me a lot of
these other ceremonial acts releasing the energy
from our old partners and friends that did horrible
horrible things and justified and their truth
justified you know very hurtful disturbing things
that we were carrying when I was able to let go of
that over the last two years I have become such a
different person that I have had a difficult time
acclimating to this energy My life had been so
chaotic and hectic my entire life since I was a kid
that I thought I knew what inner peace was but I
had never really felt it and over the last year
especially I've had such a deep inner peace that
I've had to re acclimate to myself Um it is I don't
know how to describe it I had never had such inner
peace my entire life and that inner peace that I
have learned to develop within myself Um even you
know like my daughter she didn't know how to
respond to me That cycle stopped Of you know the
cycle you know that that I had going with her
stopped But then she had she told me I was like a
different person She had to learn to exist with me
in this new energy as as did you But one person and
and I'm not saying that just one person because
Stacy's made some amazing changes too but one
person can have an amazing effect on the rest of
the family by taking on the responsibility of
making these changes and by setting up boundaries
and cutting uh energetic ties from their old trauma
it can transform you and in doing so it can
transform your family I mean we are family has
never then I mean this is I don't know how to
describe how awesome our family is right now and
our lives are so peaceful and you know during all
the crazy times we see everyone around us going
through end times madness and acting nuts We are on
a steady keel because we dealt with all of that
bullshit that was just causing the craziness and
when you don't have you don't hear the wind blowing
outside and the trees are not smacking up against
the window and you don't hear you don't hear all
this background noise quiet can be deafening And my
inner quiet and inner peace was deafening for me
for a while and I still find myself like getting
used to it Yeah so even though it's different it's
not bad you know it's like we as humans we're like
so into what's comfortable and what we're used to
and you can reprogram your mind it just takes some
conscious work Once I learned that I don't know
there's a certain amount of hope you get you know
like when you realize that you can reprogram your
mind with with assistance of course you know
there's a lot of good books and stuff out there But
yeah you can and a lot of people don't realize
because they grow up and their mom and dad stay the
same people until they die Their grandparents were
basically the same people and those people if you
were to ask them they're like I'm like an oak I
didn't change I'm the same person and they think
it's a good thing you know So that's that's a hard
mindset to break out of Yeah definitely Alright
let's check out the next slide Another difficult
one recognizing when it's time to kind of evolve
your belief system you know and you know
understanding you know what distortions are I think
that's that's okay let's see distortions and your
lens of perception I think everyone's heard me use
the metaphor you know what are distortions Um and I
think the best way I've described it is describing
it as a lens and your lens of perception is created
by you know grains of sand and each grain of sand
is a trauma or an experience that you've had in
life or even information that your parents shared
with you though each one of those little grain of
sand you know drop it in there and then it's ground
together and then that's your perception and then
as you go through lives go through life different
other things occur You know other experiences and
traumas and things occur and those screens of sin
are added to your lens and that is ground into your
lens of perception And then you hold that up and
you hold that lens up to to for information to come
through So let's think of information as light You
hold that lens up to light and as that light comes
through it is refracting through all the
distortions and traumas and experiences in your
lens And it's not coming through is pure
information It's going it's all distorted through
your lens You know and as you grow and deal with
various traumas you add more sand and more
experience and you grind and your lens of
perception change as do your distortions through
life All of us are distorted Anyone with an ego has
distortions and we our egos you know we have we're
this illusion of separation of the one infinite
creator and you know that lens of perception is you
know who we are and we have the ability to correct
distortions by making changes to the lens And that
goes back to what you were talking about that we
are programmable We can program ourselves And what
I was saying earlier is most of us have just never
had a good example in our lives We've seen our
parents aunts grandparents become these damaged
Children and stay that until they die and you know
really don't witness that people can change and
break out of that I was very lucky my stepdad Ben
growing up with him he was a scary S O B He was the
town bar fighter You know police were scared of him
If we were ever pulled over uh six police cars
would surround us because they he had beat up cops
before when he was drunk when he tried to arrest
him Uh I have seen this this guy fight 56 people at
once incredibly tough guy He was a badass And he I
grew up with him being this very damaged alcoholic
bar fighter and he was abusive at home as well And
then when I was it was right around the time I was
going into the 20 and back just before I woke up
one night and my stepdad and my mom were leaning
over my bed praying and I woke up and I was like
then prank laid back down that was a dream And then
I wake up the next day my mom tells me uh something
weird happened last night Ben was in bed and God
came to him and said you need to change your life
and I'm gonna show you where you're going if you
don't and took him into a deep dark abyss it wasn't
necessarily hell but it was just complete
separation and Uh he started getting the 360 life
review and it scared the crap out of him And after
that he changed it was it was like if you ever seen
the old movie Sergeant york where he was this crazy
drinking scary guy and then he found the Lord and
then he was I mean this is what Ben was he was
either bad or he was good there was no middle
ground for this guy So when I was around 16 years
old I got to watch this person who was a scary
broken alcoholic go through a metamorphosis to
where everyone in the community looked up to him he
helped thousands of people away from alcoholism and
drug abuse He was a huge benefit to the community
and so many many many many people loved him I had
that example so I knew that if you wanted to change
you could so that I had that example and a lot of
people don't have that and I feel very blessed that
I did have that but we do have the ability to um
reprogram ourselves We we don't have to throw our
hands up and give up and say this is just what I am
you know this is just me and it's not my fault it
was my parents you know it's we we are capable of
way more than